Power of Words (Evil Speech part 1)

I find it quite useful hearing stories from thousands of years ago pertaining to a kabbalistic teaching that I am trying to learn and hope that they will also inspire others to do the same. So…

Many years ago, there was a merchant who traveled from city to city selling a “potion of life.” Rav Yannai, a great sage, sought out this merchant to investigate his claims and said, “I hear you have traveled around the world saying that you have the potion for life. What is it?” The merchant opened up the Book of Psalms, written by King David, and showed Rabbi Yannai the verse that reads, “Who is the man who desires life and loves days that he may see good in them? Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking negatively. Refrain from evil and do good, seek peace and pursue it.” (Psalms 34:13-15) The merchant said, “This is what I’m selling.” Rav Yannai became very animated and said, “I have read this verse many times, but not until this very moment did I realize how simple its message is.”

The kabbalists explain that lashon hara – evil speech – is the worst form of darkness there is. Evil speech is more than just speaking negatively about someone else, it includes those times when we say things in anger and even when we talk about ourselves negatively.

Which do you think is worse? Walking up to someone and slapping them in the face, or having dinner with a friend and speaking badly about another person. Slapping someone seems so much worse. So bad, I’m sure that some are appalled that I would even discuss such a thing. However, lashon hara is worse than almost any other negative action we can do.

Rav Yannai explains that the person who slapped someone can go through a process of teshuvah (repentance), which allows for the removal of any darkness that we have brought upon ourselves. Teshuvah is a two-step process; first is clearing the physicality of the action by asking the person we hurt for forgiveness. Second is the spiritual aspect, which is about bringing enough Light into our soul so that the darkness drawn by the negative action is removed. This process of teshuvah can be done for almost any negative action that we do, except for lashon hara, which is in a separate category of its own.

Rav Shimon Bar Yochai once said in reference to Creation, that the Creator should have given us two mouths. One we would use for day-to-day tasks and the other would be reserved for spiritual matters. By having two mouths, we could keep the one we use for goodness pure. (I know, ladies, more time would be spent choosing lipstick colors.)

Interestingly, the seed for pain and suffering in our world was planted when the snake, which represents the negative side, spoke lashon hara about the Creator to Eve and then to Adam in the Garden of Eden and planted the seed of doubt through his words. Because Adam and Eve listened to the words of the snake, they fell spiritually. Therefore, when we speak negatively about others or about ourselves, we go back and reconnect to the power of the snake, the seed of darkness of our world. This puts a shell of negativity around our soul that prevents any Light we draw (through our spiritual) work from entering it.

What the merchant revealed to Rabbi Yannai is that the prerequisite for any other spiritual work we do is to first and foremost refrain from negative, evil speech.

Our words are powerful. There’s a story about a group of tiny frogs that arranged a competition. The goal was simple: to reach the top of a very high tower. On the day of the challenge a large crowd gathered around the tower to watch the race, and cheer on the contestants.

The race began and quite honestly, no one in the crowd really believed that the tiny frogs would ever reach the top of the tower.  It was a tough vertical climb and the crowd knew it.  Statements and jeers such as “Oh, that’s WAY too difficult!”, “They will NEVER make it to the top!”, “NO CHANCE will they ever succeed. That tower is TOO high and they are sooooooooooo TINY!” could be heard throughout the race.

Soon after the race began, a few of the tiny frogs began collapsing, one after the other.  The other competitors kept going, climbing higher and higher. But the crowd continued to heckle and yell their taunts and disbeliefs, “It’s TOO difficult!!! No one will ever make it! Why bother?!”

Soon more frogs got tired and gave up.  The crowd was relentless, “Give it up all ready! You won’t succeed anyway!” more and more frogs were defeated by the climb.  All but one.

One tiny frog persisted to climb higher and higher; this one just wouldn’t give up!  By the end of the race, all of the frogs had dropped out and given up the dream of climbing the tower. All but that one, who, after much effort, managed to reach the top of the tower. Naturally everyone was astounded and had to know HOW he was able to do it. Another frog asked the winner how he had found the strength to reach his goal, but the tiny frog didn’t answer; he just smiled and beamed with joy.

As it turned out, the tiny frog was deaf. And he couldn’t hear the discouraging remarks from the crowd.

With mindfulness we can begin to shift our consciousness toward seeing the good in others (and ourselves) which will naturally change the way we speak about others. When we engage in lashon hara, we put a shell around our soul, and then all the Light we draw as a result of our spiritual work cannot even enter; it cannot assist and support us in our life’s process, especially in the challenging times.

The Rav often said, “Never let negative things enter your mind or come out of your mouth.”

After my son Josh was born and the doctors diagnosed him with Down syndrome, my husband and I were very careful to not use that label, because then that diagnosis takes on a life of its own. It becomes more than just observations of symptoms and spirals into a limiting of potential, outlining all that ‘could’ be or can be associated with it. We want Josh to be empowered to the limits of his inherent potential, not by a label or a diagnosis.

We should do our utmost to see the positive aspects of people and situations. Just as saying negative things about others is dangerous, so too is sitting around and constantly talking about how bad things are (or how bad we think things will be.) This creates negativity around something that may or may not exist. On a spiritual level, energy comes to this world without form, therefore the way we think about things and the way we speak about them enables them to manifest.

A slab of clay doesn’t manifest into something until a sculptor’s hands form it. Now, imagine spiritual energy as that lump of unworked clay. Our words & thoughts sculpt that energy, giving it shape, form and dimension in our reality. So when I hear people constantly ruminating about their problems and adding in how bad the situation is or how badly they feel, I remind them that all this talk is creating a more probable reality for challenges to exist because our mouths form energy.

I hope we have a renewed appreciation for the power of our words.

THOUGHT INTO ACTION
If you don’t have anything nice to say… you aren’t trying hard enough. Think of something positive and then express that.

 

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Pisces (12th day of Aries)

If you want to change your circumstances, you must take responsibility for where you are. Let go of past hurts and pain. Practice empathy today; when we feel the pain of others, our worries slowly disappear. Take action, and be a leader – you are NOT a victim. You always have a choice, and you can be proactive in achieving your own fulfillment. Go the extra mile by handling pressure with grace. 

 

I am not a victim

 

 

 

 

Meditate on the letters. All of my feelings of self-pity and my hopes of retaliation are vanishing, as I accept the consequences of my own actions. I take responsibility for where I am, and know that if I want to change my circumstances, it is within my control. I will be proactive, and achieve my own fulfillment. I am letting go of pain, and regaining control over my life.

 

Each of the first 12 days of Aries presents you with an opportunity to overcome whatever normally blocks you from receiving the fulfillment you desire – and deserve.

How you respond to the tests of the first 12 days affects the outcome of how you will experience the coming year. In general, be as proactive as possible, and familiarize yourself with the types of challenges you’ll be facing.

This guide can steer you through the challenges so you can create an incredible start to your year.

 

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Aquarius (11th day of Aries)

There is no “I” in TEAM. Being unique can fuel the ego. Be a team player, practice your compassion and transform ego into humility today. Take special care of those around you, because when you focus your attention on others, you are able to connect with something greater than yourself. Focus on treating everybody with respect and dignity today (and always.)

 

Let the Light Lead

 

 

 

Meditate on the letters. I am going to get out of the way and allow the Light to guide me. In the past, I have been stubborn, set in my ways, and I will let go. Instead of clinging to my beliefs, I will open up, and allow the Light of the Upper Dimensions to shine down into my realm and transform my life. I have real desire, not for myself alone, but to connect to something greater.
 

Each of the first 12 days of Aries presents you with an opportunity to overcome whatever normally blocks you from receiving the fulfillment you desire – and deserve.

How you respond to the tests of the first 12 days affects the outcome of how you will experience the coming year. In general, be as proactive as possible, and familiarize yourself with the types of challenges you’ll be facing.

This guide can steer you through the challenges so you can create an incredible start to your year.

 

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Capricorn (10th day of Aries)

Loosen the chains around your heart. While it’s great to set the bar high for expectations, it’s natural to stumble from time to time. Staying humble allows you to relate to all those around you, and bring greater Light into your life. Don’t be afraid to express your emotions; you have the tools you need to overcome all of life’s obstacles. Rely on them and use them well. Remember, the process is the purpose. 

 

Let Yourself Love

 

 

 

Meditate on the letters. I want to bring all future and existing relationships to the level of Soul Mate. I want to relate to all those around me on this heightened spiritual plane, and bring greater Light into my life.

 

Each of the first 12 days of Aries presents you with an opportunity to overcome whatever normally blocks you from receiving the fulfillment you desire – and deserve.

How you respond to the tests of the first 12 days affects the outcome of how you will experience the coming year. In general, be as proactive as possible, and familiarize yourself with the types of challenges you’ll be facing.

This guide can steer you through the challenges so you can create an incredible start to your year.

 

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Sagittarius (9th day of Aries)


Haste makes waste. Take your time today, consider all the details, and every point of view before making any decisions. Analyze the whole situation. Then make a commitment and stick to it. Be sensitive and practice forgiveness by being of service to others – that’s how we contribute to the greater good. – See more at:

 

Open Up

 

 

 

Meditate on the letters. As I focus on unconditional love, for all people around me, the ark forces within are cast out. In the past, I have felt hatred for certain people. Now, as I picture those people in my mind, I feel only love. Light washes over them, and me, and I recognize the common thread that we share—the spark of the Creator. My heart opens as I wish them joy and fulfillment, peace and greater understanding.

 

Each of the first 12 days of Aries presents you with an opportunity to overcome whatever normally blocks you from receiving the fulfillment you desire – and deserve.

How you respond to the tests of the first 12 days affects the outcome of how you will experience the coming year. In general, be as proactive as possible, and familiarize yourself with the types of challenges you’ll be facing.

This guide can steer you through the challenges so you can create an incredible start to your year.

 

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Scorpio (8th day of Aries)


The only thing more destructive than hating others, is hating yourself. The energy of today invites you to shower yourself with a little love and compassion today. There’s no need to create crisis. Be proactive! Make a gratitude list of all the blessings in your life. Find fulfillment through self-control, not in trying to control others and invite the Creator in for assistance.

 

Share Your Love

 

 
Meditate on the letters.
God is within. I connect to the divine power in my soul and awaken an incredible source. My confidence is fortified so that I am empowered to solve my problems, to eradicate the chaos and confusion in my life. I am aware of the good within and the good that I can do, if I choose to take responsibility for the Light in me. It has always been there–now I see it.

 

Each of the first 12 days of Aries presents you with an opportunity to overcome whatever normally blocks you from receiving the fulfillment you desire – and deserve.

How you respond to the tests of the first 12 days affects the outcome of how you will experience the coming year. In general, be as proactive as possible, and familiarize yourself with the types of challenges you’ll be facing.

This guide can steer you through the challenges so you can create an incredible start to your year.

 

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Libra (7th day of Aries)


Today, make indecision a thing of your past! When the Creator guides your choices, there is little room for doubt. Don’t question past decisions, rather trust that you are on the right path, and grow your certainty – it has no bounds! 

 

Practice Certainty

 

 

 

Meditate on the letters.
I have absolute certainty that what is right will happen through proactive behavior. I take complete responsibility for my life and know that I am getting what I need right now. And as I continue to allow more Light and certainty into my life, I will get even more.

 

Each of the first 12 days of Aries presents you with an opportunity to overcome whatever normally blocks you from receiving the fulfillment you desire – and deserve.

How you respond to the tests of the first 12 days affects the outcome of how you will experience the coming year. In general, be as proactive as possible, and familiarize yourself with the types of challenges you’ll be facing.

This guide can steer you through the challenges so you can create an incredible start to your year.

 

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Virgo (6th day of Aries)

You may be right, but consider the possibility that you may be wrong. Rather than judging others or jumping to conclusions, consider things from a different point of view. Let go of your desire to control. None of us are in control of what happens to us, but we can control how we react – look for the good instead of focusing on imperfections. Be curious, ask questions, and look upon others with compassion and share your love; it sweetens any judgments that may come your way.

 

Each of the first 12 days of Aries presents you with an opportunity to overcome whatever normally blocks you from receiving the fulfillment you desire – and deserve.

How you respond to the tests of the first 12 days affects the outcome of how you will experience the coming year. In general, be as proactive as possible, and familiarize yourself with the types of challenges you’ll be facing.

This guide can steer you through the challenges so you can create an incredible start to your year.

 

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Leo (5th day of Aries)

Resist the urge to take charge—this is your challenge today. Take special care not to overstep boundaries. Avoid trying to be the center of attention by thinking before speaking, and balance out the strong energy of today by considering the thoughts, points of view and feelings of others. Employ empathy to help those around you, listen carefully and only give advice if it is asked for.

 

Each of the first 12 days of Aries presents you with an opportunity to overcome whatever normally blocks you from receiving the fulfillment you desire – and deserve.

How you respond to the tests of the first 12 days affects the outcome of how you will experience the coming year. In general, be as proactive as possible, and familiarize yourself with the types of challenges you’ll be facing.

This guide can steer you through the challenges so you can create an incredible start to your year.

 

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Cancer (4th day of Aries)

What’s really holding you back? Fear and insecurity are illusions that distract us from living in the present. Count your blessings and remember that physical things in the world can’t bring security. Release past emotions that are dragging you down. Live in the now, and trust the Creator. Awaken your appreciation and look forward; the point is not to correct the past but to make better choices in the future. Commit to an act of sharing daily. Today’s a good day to throw out or give away possessions that are no longer useful.

 

Let Go

 

 

 

 

Meditate on the letters.
I am letting go of past pain, regret, trauma. All of it. If there is a particular theme or moment that you keep coming back to, picture it in your mind. As you do this meditation, go back to that moment, then reverse it, plant a new seed. I will release past emotions that are dragging me down, replacing old baggage with Light and love. I look forward, not back.

 

Each of the first 12 days of Aries presents you with an opportunity to overcome whatever normally blocks you from receiving the fulfillment you desire – and deserve.

How you respond to the tests of the first 12 days affects the outcome of how you will experience the coming year. In general, be as proactive as possible, and familiarize yourself with the types of challenges you’ll be facing.

This guide can steer you through the challenges so you can create an incredible start to your year.

 

 

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